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Hi Guys!!
A Nigerian lady has shared a serious conversation between her and fiance a few weeks to their wedding.
The matter is so serious because she earns more and her husband-to-be wants her to quit the job on the ground that their kids will need serious motherly care.
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Go through the WhatsApp conversation carefully and offer your advice to the woman.
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Guys, over to you 
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What Are Your Thoughts On This Matter?
What Word Of Advice Do You Have For The Couple?
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Hmmm serious talk
Yeah Very serious
Yes o
Pls dont ever thing of quetin dat job
Pls never leave the job rather talk it out
He is still having malaria, I think he should treat his malaria first
Asin ehnn…he must really be having that malaria u are talking about
I thought is even more than malaria his having
YES NAA
I swear
Let the two of them settle their self oo
IS REAL
Seriously, a case that requires an expert
Na real expert
YES
It is
The talk strong
Please don’t quit ur job
If you love him you can do so but is a serious case
Go and pray about it you need God intervention
Let both of together and reason vary well to drop of water make a mighty ocean
As in how
Not clear enough
Lol yes oo
Obey ur husband
Lol
Lol
The man is having malaria fever,
😆😆😂
I think the man ve taken weed
OK agreed
YES
The matter need intervention
But if its me am not stopping my job for no reason instead the husband should consider bringing Nanny
Yes getting job now is not easy
At all o
I swear down
And if he refuses? Considering the pregnancy
Well I think find out first why he have change is mind
Yes you have to obey your husband
Convinced him in order to retain the job
If she can do so
Exactly
At least he should try to understand.. This is her life, her career
lol
That true shall
Lol
OK, I concur to this
The husband should reconsider
Thank you o
The man shld even be glad he has a wife that earns that figure, except he is jealous
YES
She should not leave her job.
Simple.
She should better not try it at all
At All
YES
YEAP
Even I did not support that
Supported
Abi the husband mad Ni…so she went to school,worked hard and all just to become a housewife…that aside…shey them no court Ni..I mean all this should have been discussed during courtship…ND if them see say them no agree them go do leave themselves since…the girl shld better not even think of quitting.cuz if she does..he go call her liability last last
Quitting her job is truly a wrong idea
Yes o
YES, TO THE MAN CAN EVEN BENEFIT FROM THAT WOMAN SALARY
Do not leave ur job. U may regret itster
This is really serious matter
Even in addition self how come she’s 4month pregnant & discussing serious matters like this online it’s obvious they are not living together
Calm down na no vex
Lol…you dey mind am.him blood dey hot
The lady will definitely suffer I if she should quit. She better have a rethink and the so called husband or husbandry should come down and reason with his wife to be.
Help me tell this guy that there is no job outside o.
Hmmmmm..how would she suffer??..
Because whenever Mr Husband begins to play on her intelligence, the lady will feel ashamed.
I still don’t get you…feel ashamed she did not give up her job or what
Be wise o
A word is enough for the wise.. Opportunity come but ones
Abi o
ABI OO
THE WOMAN SHOULD BE WISE
Loud it o
If I hear she leaves the job
Find people to talk to him and also pray for God intervention
True
YEAP
I concur
He’s not ready to get married
He just want to cripple her carer
Asin ehnn
FINALLY
I swear
The woman is at detriment here not the man, she shld be the one to be ready
Don’t leave that job, u will later suffer for it
Exactly
Abi o
He is an enemy of progress divorce him and look for a real man like me.
I support the motion
I SUPPORTED YOU
YES
Guys are so unpredictable 😔didn’t he know while courting before preparing for d marriage???it is well tho
Point of correction… “Some guys” because I believe some are predictable
Lol
Thanks you o
Judging from their conversation it appears they were overridden by blind love that they never discussed it
Abi o. He even said nevermind
I will advice you to hold down a while, let him understand that you will do that after the marriage
Really
During or after pregnancy in marriage?
Follow your heart dear
And it shall set her free
Lol
Yes now people can misled her ….so let her just follow her heart ooo
Ok o
YES, SOME DON’T GIVE GOOD ADVISE
Betteroo
Abi naa
Yeah I concur
I sight you brotherly
Hmmmmmmmmm
I will advise you not to do such because if he truly love you he would have suppose to know that this is your carer
Thank you o
Abi
They need mutual understanding
YES
NO BI LIE
Obey ur husband
ABI
Be submissive
Agreed but on this matter? No way
Think wisely
Didn’t he knows you were working before he married you?my advice is asking what plan does he have for you before you quit your job
To resume her job when the child has turned 5yrs
A GOOD QUESTION
Hmmm, am speechless
On my side, I won’t quite because applying for job this days is hard ooo.
Motion supported
YOUR MINE IT
Why must you quit?
Good question
YEAP
Maybe he is jealous of your salary, he wants you to become a full-time house wife abi, say Lai Lai to bad jealousy.
Exactly what I thought & he’s a fool at that
YES
YES
That’s not good enough…in this current century…no no no, it’s not done!!!
He probably need a third-party to talk sense into his head
YES
TRUE
This is how some men usually do.
Thank God u said some men
BUT SOME DON’T DO LIKE THAT
They like destroying destiny in a woman because of there own benefits.
That’s irrational & unfair
REAL
My advice to that lady is to think it very well before accept that, because men are not good to that level, he may change after he has see that the lady no get a job again, be wise tell your parents let them advice you on that. Men are so wicked there is no what they cannot do.
Alright!!! The SAN of women affairs has spoken
Don’t allow any man to destroy your destiny, not even this time that there is no job.
Yes motion supported
ARE SURE?
Thank you jare.
Where is the job in Nigeria of today that one will decide to leave a job that pays 355k?
Run bcos He enjoys being poor
Lols
RUN VERY WELL
Its not ad if he enjoyed being poor but stubbornness.
Nah the stubbornness go make am die in poverty last last
It’s obvious from the onset of the courtship that they were overridden by blind love or lust that they never discussed this as matured minds
YES
Hmmmm
They need to sit down and talk to each other
THAT IS THE ONLY SOLUTION
Why did he not discusses it early and it now when you two one to get married
I LIKE YOUR SPEECH
Planing early is the best before marriage
THIS CAN BE SETTLE BETWEEN TWO OF THEM
THIS IS HUSBAND AND WIFE ISSUES OO
LADY, GO AND PRAY HARD, SO THAT GOD WOULD INTERVENE
Hmmmmm, OK o
SHE WOULD HAVE POST THIS SENSES BEFORE THIS TIME OF MARRIAGE
This is serious but ask him what he have for u before quitting ur job
Exactly because its not that easy.
CORRECT
Let’s be realistic, its better for both of them to have a rethink most especially the husband to be so the name husband will not turn to rubber-band.
Their earnings per month when combined will be N595,000 which will be enough for them to make a good living if spent wisely.
If the wife should stop working, though N240k is something too but can’t quickly make them up for something good in the Nigeria of today.
An adage says: Using left to wash right and right to wash left makes hand clean.
A word is absolutely enough for the wise.
YOUR ADVISE IS CLEAR
Thank you brother
Thank you very much…you can not clap with out the 2 hands coming together
This is a serious matter
THAT IS OK
The wife should have a rethink.
TRUE
the man is trying to build a better home for his children and as a result of dat he does not consider the womans aspect of life
YES
Iron it out now. For you not to divorce him lattter in life
Shine your eyes
TRUE
It is the man’s ego that is killing him, thinking his wife is collecting money than hin
REAL
If that is what will solve the issue,pls do
yes
Follow ur heart dear
It still depends on what you really want okay!!!
It is not proper for the woman to quit her job
Don’t quit anything abeg
That guy really has a low mentality
That man is not serious, he’s still having this dumb African mentayi think the lady can carry families along together to settle it
I don’t believe this ….no sane man will like to go lower his standard ……
Hmm
This is serious
Ladies should answer this. ..because if he truelove want her to stop it for real she should create another profitable alternative for her
My sis money or love u have to choose urself
You have to learn to love yourself first and you are also been submissive
It better they think of their future
She should not quit her job
It really hard oo, I never can say ooo
Consult ur spiritual father abt it.
This is a very serious issue..the man should understand that he can loose his job any time…what will dae fall back on..let him leave her o..and workout their schedule
She should not quit her job..God will help you
The man is not serious at all, the lady should not quit let the man get a nanny
That is why they say if you want to marry look for somebody that is in your direction not after marrying the person you will now want to change her line of direction in doing that you looking for trouble.
For me I will quit only on one condition, you will open a business that will worth my salary or half of my salary every month for me but for becoming a house wife is not possible.
The guy is just being unreasonable and selfish in here. The lady should be very careful with the guy because she will pass through a lot Para venture she quit her job. If the guy insist, she should stay away from him and start thinking of how to raise the unborn baby alone.
This is a serious mater with which isto be discuss carefully in their own convinet time, cus this 1 pass us ohh.if the lady stop her job there might be a problem tomorrow
Hmmm! Marriage,money,class,career and motherhood, maybe. They are I mean the couples to be ,the main actors here. No matter the advice we give here,they both still have the final say on the matter. To me,the guy has good intentions but his approach was a bit archaic. I saw him as been threatened by the fact that his wife to be earn more than him and probably won’t respect him. And the wife to be on her part,maybe based on the approach of her guy,isn’t ready to trade her career. They should both sit down and set their priorities right.
That is totally wrong decision
Class,race, decisions, career, understanding are always somehow the problem to marriage… I’ll say she should quit the job because of the kids
Enemy of progress….start praying to God for a change of mind if u truly love him and again remember u are pregnant ..only God can intervene
That’s very bad idea how can u just leave your work because one guy
If that the way it is and you love ur man, accept what he asked you to do and start up a business with what you have saved from the job..
Na wah for some men sef
If she quits now, he will still be the one to complain that she’s becoming a liability without adding anything to the family.
My dear, if he fails to bend his rules a bit, let him go. There are many men out there looking for an industrious woman like you.
That’s not a good idea
my sister listern theres nothing serious there the truth is that it is your decision to make but to me quitting your job is not a good idea, I’ll say u keep ur job if he’s serious about you he’ll see reasons with you, don’t put your career on the line for any shit
I smell insecurity from the man and he doesn’t know what’s happening out there. My advice to the lady is that she should jettison the marriage idea because the man has clearly shown how insecure he is and will kill the dream of the lady. Her life doesn’t revolve around children alone, cmon, God gave her a dream and gift with it and so why should a man derail it all in the name of insecurity. Lady, wise up!
Na wa ooo i don’t think is a good idea because in this current issue we’re into both of u will be contributing together to help the family grow
Men will always be Men…
That man is a pure chauvinist…
Does he think the lady has nothing better to do than to sit at home as an house wife after marriage? Girl you gonna look fat and shapeless if you do that. And he will get tired of you asking for almost everything from him… Don’t follow his words, you did not go to school to pursue house wife ship…
This is where understanding and communication comes in,for me Iwould say there is no need for the wife to quit her job, they can get a nanny, a driver who they know everything abt him and that can be trusted. This is what most men don’t understand ,when d lady stop working and becomes idle or she is not doing what she is passionate about , it will make her misbehave, she will feel d man is been selfish and all…communication matters a lot not argument
It’s left for both to decide
You guys should sit face to face and talk over this. Quitting her job is not the best and solution.
This is serious. Good thing dey got to talk about it before marriage
are y’all okay? is he okay to tell you to quit your job? are you okay to do so? be wise my dear!
You both should iron it out communicate well
You both should iron it out
Try and sit him down and with every sense of humility let him see reasons why you need to keep your job.
It’s a serious issue on ground here. No matter what it won’t be advisable for the lady too to abandon her job only on a lllllllllllllbasis that the guy is ready and would set her up for a business @ a substantial amount. There children welfare is also very important and most be given utmost priority.
Don’t try to leave your job ooo mama
It has been very interesting
She needs a new husband, I think I can help
He took a very wrong approach in asking for that. Talking like Commander
Sit him down and give a serious knock on his head
That’s ie not right, he is supposed to leave the you, make you continue with the work and also be his wife which will him financially. But if he disagree and you love him, you can quit the job
This is really serious. They need to really sit down and discuss this before the marriage takes place.
Yo me it’s better you two seat and understand each other
Hmmm if he can do what is in it
It makes no sense to me dear , all u have to do is to talk to him and let him understand….if he says no then let him be …..
This one is very serious matter both need to seat and discourse very well, man has a point because to mix work with child it not easy is not about been selfish., is for own condition
U better leave that man is a sign that the man is not ur right man
If u end up marrying the man,u will regret it
Don’t agree to leave the Job oo..
Really this is a serious matter ooh,abeg dear, please go ahead with your work and don’t listen to him.
She shouldn’t quit her job
Dont even think about quitting your job…Trust me…it’s a suicide mission and by the way, i admire your courage of telling him your mind. You did well. Keep your job…no matter what.
Just like the lady said they will find a way out.but quitting her job for me isn’t the best option .the guy should give it a try if it doesn’t workout then they can iron it out cos d ladies sallary will do alot for the family
Selfish man
Y being sily
U both can work and more income gan
The truth is that when the woman is richer than the man the woman lacks respect to the man