What’s the best thing about s*x (besides orgasms)? There are SO many ways to have it: Upside-down, on the couch, on an airplane, from behind, roughly, gently … the list goes on. Although traditional notions of masculinity (unfairly) assume that all men are dominant in bed, it turns out that IRL, the s*x positions men really want are a lot more varied than you might think.
Everyone is different when it comes to sexual preferences, kinks, fetishes, and turn-ons. And just like how someone’s vagina can affect how they achieve an orgasm, factors like p*nis size — whether it’s by-the-books large or smaller than average — can significantly impact what positions work best for them. Although p*nis size is not the most important aspect of s*x by a long shot, it definitely comes into play when you’re trying to figure out a position that feels good.
Although there’s a stigma that men prefer rough s*x to real intimacy, I knew that in real life, that’s definitely not the case. So in order to figure out what they find s*xy in the bedroom, I asked seven cisgender, heteros*xual men to tell me what position is their absolute favorite. See for yourself how they compare to the s*x positions women want most. (And keep in mind that these positions work with two women as well!)
1. Modified Missionary
“As boring as it sounds, my favorite position is missionary — it’s a classic for a reason! I like it because it’s comfortable, gets the job done, and is inarguably one of the more intimate positions in the (metaphorical) book. BUT the trick to good missionary is to make slight adjustments. I tend to like it when my girlfriend wraps her legs around my hips as I thrust.” — Bobby, 26
2. Woman On Top
“I like when the girl is on top and I’m sitting up, so we’re face to face. It’s intimate, and great for grabbing her butt or playing with her bo*bs.” — Bradley, 28
3. Doggy Style
“I like when she’s bent over and on her knees and I’m behind her. I like that it gives me more leverage and power, and that I can work different angles and depths, and I can also pull her hair.” — Daniel, 22
“I like this position because [I’m] standing and have a good view of everything going on (lol). Also, the woman’s feet on the chest or shoulders is hot.” — John, 22
5. Reverse Cowgirl
“Reverse cowgirl is fun because it’s different than the standard positions but it’s easy to do. It’s similar to doggy style, but the girl has more control. And it’s easy from there to get into variations, especially if you’re flexible or strong on the bottom.”
“I’m probably biased because I love morning s*x, and spooning is the best position to ease into after waking up … It’s essentially the X-rated version of cuddling. It’s intimate and erotic at the same time, plus it’s easy to reach her nipples and clitoris when I’m right behind her.” — Mike, 25
7. X Marks The Spot
“For me, this position feels really good because when her legs are crossed, everything feels a lot tighter and there’s more friction. Plus, the view of her lying below me with her legs up on my shoulders doesn’t hurt either.” — Brandon, 24